About Polyfetishist

While this is not my site for self-expression about the role of BDSM in my life I realize that I should supply a limited context for those of you who find yourself here.

I'm a slavish masochist who is very much in love with his sadistic Domina. We engage in everything from sweet pet play, to heavy corporal punishment, strong humiliation and whatever fetishes seem to offer mutual satisfaction.

While I have a very real need for my beloved to take the lead neither of us pretends that it is all about her. If we both did not find satisfaction in our interplay the love affair would expire.

Sadly my beloved is British. That means we spend months apart and months together. During the latter I channel my energy into websites, mostly kinky, primarily educational. (A nice way of saying that I don't really profit from them.)

Honestly I probably would not have established a Blogger account if a few worthwhile Blogspot blogs didn't require one for leaving comments.

Given that I host my sites on my own domains I don't post anything substantive here. but do on and off post links to some of the things I do or have written that I hope will be of use to others.

Advice Even for "Femdom Light"

If your relationship is defined by the current vogue words of female led relationship, wife led marriage and loving female authority you may be uncomfortable with the word slave. But many FLR, WLM, LFA marriages, love affairs sound much like traditional female dominant relationships that existed long before Elise Sutton or Ms. Abernathy took to their typewriters.

Whether you are comfortable with the word Femdom or not this short list of proper behavior works for almost any relationship involving the exchange of power. Really they might be called conscious civility or directed attentiveness or whathaveyou:

Rules for Voluntary Slaves

Many of us have certain acts - call them fetishes - that we require. Ignoring them is planting a timebomb in your relationship. Spell them out so you can see if any of them are problematic so you can move on to more subtle things:

Male Slave Checklist

The Joyful Romance of Woman Worship

I already had this site planned when I started the dating site.

After all once a F/m couple has established an intimate relationship the next step is to preserve and deepen the commitment and passion. Hence,

Femdom Romance

It is my hope that some of you - a few already have - will share at least one story of your happiness as the giver or recipient of woman worship.

Kinky Blogger Tips & Tricks

Some folks start a D/s or S&M blog and go "WOW! Look at all the people who are reading me!" or "Damn, nobody knows I'm here."

On BDSM Weblogs I'm going to post a few tips for gaining greater visibility for your kinky blog. As time - all too often in short supply - permits. The first post was tonight. I hope to follow it up with more within the week.

My intent is to focus on simple things, not attempt to make anyone into the Supreme Fetish Blogger or the like.

BDSM Blogging

Latest Project: F/m Dating Advice

Femdom Dating

A small simple site for collecting help for dominant women and submissive men - of all varieties - would are looking for someone to play with or love forever.

If you have a happy story or some advice to share I'd be delighted to publish it.

BDSM Psychology 101 (Mine Anyway)

A couple of entries that I'm happy with as exploration of the development of my fetish needs and desires from childhood on:

• The Path to Here

My best effort at understanding why I find such pure satisfaction in being subservient:

• The Path to Submissiveness

We each have our own personal "psychohistories" of coming to have kinks, fetishes, whatever you wish to call them. It is a pleasure to develop some comprehension of their roots.

"Postmodern" Female Domination

Despite the possibly pretentious seeming title I've decided that this entry does a reasonable job of summing up some of the BDSM related issues that have been on my mind of late:

Post-Femdom?

Confusion

Sometimes when I comment on a blog I use this blogger account. Other times I post as Richard with a link to my much more substantial blog. Switching back and forth is just a sign of absent-mindedness and I apologize if I've ever created any confusion or appeared to be attempting to be two different people.

Polyfetishist on MySpace

With no distinct goal in mind I've created a MySpace account. If you add me to your friend's list mention where you found the mention so I'll know you aren't one of the mere friend collectors.

Richard at MySpace

Why

Naturally after saying you aren’t going to anymore, naturally one must post …

My goals in writing on the web are twofold:

Self-exploration: I find that writing publicly seems to enable additional critical thinking about what I think and feel. If only after I’ve published some very foolish words.

Education: having been lucky enough to see my sexuality flourish and grow I hope I can give a few people a nudge or two toward sexual self-realization.

Changing My Mind ...

I've decided to put the blog about the directory on one of my own domains: I'm just not up to letting things be controlled by a third party service.

Aside from the directory, this is my kinky personal blog:

• Down On My Knees

My beloved's:

• Sensual Sadist

Drop by anytime.

Moved One of My Sites

My oldest sexuality blog has been around for years.

It is part of a domain with several themed areas. I'd toyed with moving Amorous Propensities to a separate domain but was reluctant because of all the people that link to the original location.

But yesterday I decided to risk all that and give it a domain of its own:

Amorous Propensities

Sites By and For Gay Women

Being male I rarely run into blogs by and resources for lesbians. I'd really appreciate having some added to Polyfetishist.

20 Days 200 Listings

Polyfetishist is twenty days old and has two hundred sites listed.

Hopefully more and more people will be adding their sites - or ones they find worthwhile - and Polyfetishist will become mostly self-maintaining.

Bizarre Blogspot Bug

After upgrading the software that powers the site I found myself unable to add links to any of the Blogspot blogs. After considerable tinkering I deleted the whole setup, reinstalled it afresh and Blogspot sites can be added again.

Greetings from Polyfetishist

I'm not sure how frequently I'll be updating this.

My primary reason for establishing a Blogger account was to enable me to comment on Blogger blogs that don't allow comments otherwise.