About Polyfetishist

While this is not my site for self-expression about the role of BDSM in my life I realize that I should supply a limited context for those of you who find yourself here.

I'm a slavish masochist who is very much in love with his sadistic Domina. We engage in everything from sweet pet play, to heavy corporal punishment, strong humiliation and whatever fetishes seem to offer mutual satisfaction.

While I have a very real need for my beloved to take the lead neither of us pretends that it is all about her. If we both did not find satisfaction in our interplay the love affair would expire.

Sadly my beloved is British. That means we spend months apart and months together. During the latter I channel my energy into websites, mostly kinky, primarily educational. (A nice way of saying that I don't really profit from them.)

Honestly I probably would not have established a Blogger account if a few worthwhile Blogspot blogs didn't require one for leaving comments.

Given that I host my sites on my own domains I don't post anything substantive here. but do on and off post links to some of the things I do or have written that I hope will be of use to others.

Advice Even for "Femdom Light"

If your relationship is defined by the current vogue words of female led relationship, wife led marriage and loving female authority you may be uncomfortable with the word slave. But many FLR, WLM, LFA marriages, love affairs sound much like traditional female dominant relationships that existed long before Elise Sutton or Ms. Abernathy took to their typewriters.

Whether you are comfortable with the word Femdom or not this short list of proper behavior works for almost any relationship involving the exchange of power. Really they might be called conscious civility or directed attentiveness or whathaveyou:

Rules for Voluntary Slaves

Many of us have certain acts - call them fetishes - that we require. Ignoring them is planting a timebomb in your relationship. Spell them out so you can see if any of them are problematic so you can move on to more subtle things:

Male Slave Checklist

The Joyful Romance of Woman Worship

I already had this site planned when I started the dating site.

After all once a F/m couple has established an intimate relationship the next step is to preserve and deepen the commitment and passion. Hence,

Femdom Romance

It is my hope that some of you - a few already have - will share at least one story of your happiness as the giver or recipient of woman worship.

Kinky Blogger Tips & Tricks

Some folks start a D/s or S&M blog and go "WOW! Look at all the people who are reading me!" or "Damn, nobody knows I'm here."

On BDSM Weblogs I'm going to post a few tips for gaining greater visibility for your kinky blog. As time - all too often in short supply - permits. The first post was tonight. I hope to follow it up with more within the week.

My intent is to focus on simple things, not attempt to make anyone into the Supreme Fetish Blogger or the like.

BDSM Blogging