I'm the current Spotlight Perve at Kink-a-Go-Go:
It seems like if you Google anything fetish you come across, "Down on my Knees," a blog by a self-proclaimed, "Pansexual Polyfetishist : Alexandra's Lover, Pet & Slave," or Richard, if you look hard enough.
Let's Play 20 Questions with the Blogger from Down on my Knees
I've tried to sum up what kink, fetish - woman worship - means in my life.
This effort is as much an attempt to help others sum up their feelings.
Doesn't matter if you are LFA, ProDomme old school kink.
My hope is that you'll publish your own response (or if you don't write online you'll leave your list as a comment).
And for the first time ever I'm soliciting links to the entry. I'd like to see it reach out in hopes of interesting responses from dominant and submissive people.
Given the illusions and delusions some people have and the actual way some F/m couples really do live I'm glad Alexandra brought up certain issues on her blog today. I'd like to see what some of you in varying depths and kinds of F/m relationships and marriages have to say. And I think in a comment of my own I've come up with one of the better summations of what Alexandra has given me.
Your own response is solicited: Recreational Femdom, Total Power Exchange, and The Great Inbetween
Here's a bit of the backstory for those of you who stumble my way.
I'm in a half the time long distance relationship with my beloved Alexandra. I live in North Carolina, she in England. We get three months together, then three or more months apart.
When she is gone I tend to fill in the void by blogging excessively
As I've tried to explain I do this mostly for fun.
Aside from my personal D/s weblog, Down On My Knees, I have a few small F/m and kink themed sites that are designed to help people with kinky needs find interesting blogs to read and maybe enable them to find fulfillment in their own lives.
If good humor and good will don't come across in some of what I do it is due to my limits and not my intent.
I wasn't really happy with what I tried in the prior note so I expanded it:
Three things on a more or less common theme that appear to be popular:
Alexandra has been writing about possible developments in our S&M play.
Scheduled whippings at fixed times seems like a really promising idea:
If your relationship is defined by the current vogue words of female led relationship, wife led marriage and loving female authority you may be uncomfortable with the word slave. But many FLR, WLM, LFA marriages, love affairs sound much like traditional female dominant relationships that existed long before Elise Sutton or Ms. Abernathy took to their typewriters.
Whether you are comfortable with the word Femdom or not this short list of proper behavior works for almost any relationship involving the exchange of power. Really they might be called conscious civility or directed attentiveness or whathaveyou:
Many of us have certain acts - call them fetishes - that we require. Ignoring them is planting a timebomb in your relationship. Spell them out so you can see if any of them are problematic so you can move on to more subtle things:
I already had this site planned when I started the dating site.
After all once a F/m couple has established an intimate relationship the next step is to preserve and deepen the commitment and passion. Hence,
It is my hope that some of you - a few already have - will share at least one story of your happiness as the giver or recipient of woman worship.
Some folks start a D/s or S&M blog and go "WOW! Look at all the people who are reading me!" or "Damn, nobody knows I'm here."
On BDSM Weblogs I'm going to post a few tips for gaining greater visibility for your kinky blog. As time - all too often in short supply - permits. The first post was tonight. I hope to follow it up with more within the week.
My intent is to focus on simple things, not attempt to make anyone into the Supreme Fetish Blogger or the like.
A couple of entries that I'm happy with as exploration of the development of my fetish needs and desires from childhood on:
My best effort at understanding why I find such pure satisfaction in being subservient:
We each have our own personal "psychohistories" of coming to have kinks, fetishes, whatever you wish to call them. It is a pleasure to develop some comprehension of their roots.
Despite the possibly pretentious seeming title I've decided that this entry does a reasonable job of summing up some of the BDSM related issues that have been on my mind of late:
With no distinct goal in mind I've created a MySpace account. If you add me to your friend's list mention where you found the mention so I'll know you aren't one of the mere friend collectors.
Naturally after saying you aren’t going to anymore, naturally one must post …
My goals in writing on the web are twofold:
Self-exploration: I find that writing publicly seems to enable additional critical thinking about what I think and feel. If only after I’ve published some very foolish words.
Education: having been lucky enough to see my sexuality flourish and grow I hope I can give a few people a nudge or two toward sexual self-realization.
I've decided to put the blog about the directory on one of my own domains: I'm just not up to letting things be controlled by a third party service.
Aside from the directory, this is my kinky personal blog:My beloved's:
Drop by anytime.